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Saturday, September 17, 2011

My New Intended Parents

Well here we go ready or not..... 
   Paperwork all signed I sat back and waited for Modern Family to find me the 'right IPs'. Cora and Maria kept telling me they were going to find me the 'perfect' Intended Parents. They knew all about my fears so I trusted them and I knew they knew me as a person and would do their best. Just so you know I do have a say in who I do this with, so I could easily say no (well its not thaaaat easy...remember my feeling that I would carry every ones baby!!) I asked them to find IP's that were looking for a surrogate that they could eventually have a friendship with. My hopes were to not just have a baby for someone and walk away but to find IP's that I would enjoy as people and because of  their personalities and what we were going through together....a friendship!
   It was a lazy Saturday and I was home with my kids when I received a call from Cora asking if I could talk to some IP's in a little while!...... WHAT? Did she just say a little while? Doesn't she realize I need to mentally prepare myself. Holly cow.. I asked her what gives with the 5 minute prep time (not really, but it felt like that). She said her and Maria were in Los Angeles meeting with a few Intended Parents that had flown in from Spain and one of the couples were interested in speaking with me. EEEeeeeeekkkk (excited nervous squeal).  I hurriedly told my kids that I was going to be on an important phone call and not to interrupt unless a limb was falling off (directed more to my youngest daughter who likes to mime to me while I am on the phone).
      'A little while' later we were talking.  You could tell we were all nervous, which is totally natural right? I mean we are talking about having a baby here with complete strangers (wait till we have to talk about female body parts and cycles.. that's when it gets interesting!) They sounded very nice and I tried to make it easy for them because I had done this one time before. I also cut to the chase and said "I just want to answer a question that every one of my friends and strangers ask me, Do I ever feel like I want to keep the baby or isn't it hard to give it up" I told them that right from the beginning it is ALWAYS their baby this or their baby that and the joy I get from sharing what THEIR baby is doing makes it all worthwhile. They seemed like really nice people, very nervous but very nice. I only knew facts about them at this point; their names were Carlos and Maria, they were from Mataro/Catalonia Spain and family was very important to them. Because of privacy, I do not want to go into too much details about them. But from our short chat I liked them. We hung up with the knowledge we would talk or meet again. I called Cora and said they seemed very nice, and she said she felt the same way about them. She said they seemed perfect for me and they were looking for the same things I was. She also shared they took my profile and other surrogates profiles and separately Carlos and Maria made 1st choices, 2nd, and 3rd. They both had picked me as their first choices!! Destiny~maybe!
     As with the phone call, the meeting was set up just as fast. At this point I understood why it was happening so fast. They came here from Spain for one week to set up all of this; meet with IVF doctors, lawyers, Surrogacy agencies, and surrogates (if possible). We planned to meet the following weekend in Los Angeles. 7 days of nervous anticipation! I'm not going to lie, this is one of the best parts about being a surrogate~finding and meeting the people you might have a baby for. Yes it is VERY nerve wracking but also very exciting. And I would like to add  how hard it is from one phone call or even a meeting if you will like them or enjoy doing this with them. As I was told by Cora and Maria "go with your feelings". Oh those things~ feelings, which were having me believe I could or should have any ones baby a few months ago!! Not so easy!

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